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Social Media

Post by Hope2018 » Tue Jan 02, 2018 1:21 pm

I'm friends with my ALO my sister on facebook but I just unfollowed her for my own sanity and part of my goals for taking care of me this year. She's posting things that are upsetting me, like things that say don't gossip, don't be a hater. I'm at work and my heart is beating 100 beats too fast!

It is so sad, I don't gossip and I don't hate her, I love her but I don't have to live with her choices.

Thanks for listening.

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Re: Social Media

Post by DeanW » Tue Jan 02, 2018 2:09 pm

My esh: If you want to continue on FB you have to utilize all their tools to keep sane. FB can be a war zone. Hugs...

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Re: Social Media

Post by MarieW » Tue Jan 02, 2018 2:36 pm

Social media can be a mine field or a pleasure. I used to follow my son on FB, but unfriended him a while ago because well, too much information...

But I love using it to keep track of high school friends and family members. Sometimes one of them says something that upsets me and I have to ask myself "why am I upset?" Their opinions are just their opinions and only affect me as much as I allow. 99.9% of the time, it has nothing to do with me, so I have to remind myself to Quit Taking It Personally (QTIP).

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Re: Social Media

Post by vscook » Tue Jan 02, 2018 7:53 pm

I have pretty much unfollowed (not unfriended) everyone. I have sorted friends & family into groups, so I can see what they are doing at any time, but it doesn't appear in my timeline. I have liked many recovery groups (including Nar-anon), so my feed is all about recovery. It helps keep me sane.
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Re: Social Media

Post by Ronni » Wed Jan 03, 2018 8:48 am

FB was a constant source of information (and often misinformation) about my RAS for a long time. I mean, we'd talk and all, but I used FB as a sort of gauge of how he was doing. The misinformation was really more my own incorrect if he posted in the wee hours, I automatically assumed that meant he was on a run and so wasn't sleeping. But more often it wasn't drugs, he just had the late shift at work, didn't get home till after midnight, and didn't immediately go to bed/sleep. I get it, I'm the same way.

But then there were the weird posts, the strange posts, the posts that were solid evidence of his delusions when he used. Those were very upsetting. And for some reason, he often felt compelled to post a lot to Facebook when he was on a run.

I eventually restricted his posts. We were still friends, but his posts didn't show up on my timeline at all, so the only way I could see what he posted was to go to his actual page and look. Mostly I was able to stop myself from doing that. It made me a lot saner, I can tell you.
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Re: Social Media

Post by Jade11 » Thu Jan 04, 2018 12:58 pm

FB can be a funny thing. Many times I started to delete my account! But I've learned to make use of the options instead.
I recently un-followed my AH. He is leading a double life with his family on FB... like deliberately posting things to "assure" them he's sober or that he's a devoted father/family man. It makes me uncomfortable to see how hard he's trying to hide his addiction. So I stopped looking. That is his business and his alone to deal with.
Unfollowing certain friends/family means I can still connect without seeing their posts pop up.
I also unfollowed news... what with the current events this past year... I was feeling very overwhelmed by it and decided I don't need that!
I follow a lot of inspirational, positive pages and friends. I set some of them to show first in my feed. This way as soon as I open FB I immediately get a dose of positive energy. :)

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