What is Crosstalk?

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What is Crosstalk?

Post by Naranon_Admin » Fri Mar 03, 2017 12:27 pm

If you have ever been in a f2f meetings, you know that
healthy meetings do not have crosstalk. Crosstalk...speaking
directly to someone to the exclusion of others.

We don't have crosstalk in our online meetings either. We do
ask that once someone has shared, to keep your reply to the
usual TYFS (Thank You For Sharing) and a few BRIEF words of
recovery encouragement.

Works well...no crosstalk.

Here on the Forum we have a hybrid. We share WITH the intent
of soliciting the EXPERIENCE, STRENGTH AND HOPES of others.
We WANT others to respond with their ES &H. It is how we learn
and how we grow here.

However, this tends to go awry too many times here lately. So this gentle
reminder to keep crosstalk out of your sharing.

Here is what we strive for when you share:

I post my share, my issue, my concern, my experience, hope,
feelings....whatever. This is mine...I own it. I don't need
Advice (you should, if you would, you could, what you can do, etc.)
Judgment (are you crazy, this isn't right, this is wrong, etc.)
Opinion (I think, just my 2 cents, I have seen, I heard, etc.)

Next....others respond. Anyone who has something to share chimes in with
their E S & H. Great, I now get to read....take what I want and
leave the rest.

Ending....perhaps after I have received a few shares, I may tell
people how much I appreciate their responses. I don't single anyone out as
being right or anyone out as being wrong...in fact, we do not put the SPOTLIGHT
on anyone.

Here is what has been happening recently:

a running dialog of back and forth crosstalk.

I share, people respond, I come back with all the reasons why I can't,
people share again, I come back with all the excuses why that isn't so,
people share again, I come back with, but I am different (aka terminally unique),
people share again, I become defensive in order to hold onto my position,
people defend their position and before you know it there are 8 pages
of running dialog.

That is not healthy for anyone. So here are some guidelines:

End (if you feel the need for closure), with a Thanks.

Do this as much as you need!! Share, Share, Share...listen and learn!

Crosstalk does not have a place in a healthy exchange in our meetings
or here on the Forum. If you want to have further discussion with an
individual then take it off the Forum and into PM's - or pick up the phone.
This is what fellowship is all about.

Thank you for helping to keep this Forum healthy.


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