With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.
Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.
I have been escalating in my obsessive behavior. As usual, it has brought me unwanted results. Today I deactivated my facebook account and deleted my Twitter account - two venues that are very toxic for me right now. I feel better now that I have done that and hopefully this will help remove my obsessive thoughts. For me, I liken it to the addict taking just one hit. I can take just one peek...but one peek leads to another and soon my head is spinning with information that only feeds my own addiction of codependency.
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good for you Kathy, to have that awareness,
acceptance, and action to change it. Keep
Love River rock
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More and more, I am realizing what River Rock is talking about .... acceptance and action to change it. You go Girlfriend!
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Your recovery is absolutely shining!
I have been privileged to watch your growth over
these last few months and more importantly, watch
you blossom into your own truth. I hear hope and
recovery so loud and clear!
DianeB“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.” - Charles Darwinhttp://nar-anon.org
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Awesome! I am hoping to have the strength to stick to my decision to not have my ALO bring up his addiction in conversation with me. I haven't yet seen him to tell him my decision, but I am sure that at some point he will bring it up regardless, maybe he will forget, and it is then that I will have to be strong and remember to remind him and ask him to stop talking about it and walk away if he will not. Even if he is the one bringing up the topic, any discussion of addiction or recovery just feeds my codependency. I can't do it anymore-I am hoping not having those conversations will help me break away some from my addiction to my ALO's addiction and trying to save him. Sounds like you are taking the right actions at the right time-I hope I can do so as well.
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Recognizing the toxins and triggers that set us off is true growth.
When I step away from behaviors that contribute to misery, I know
it will deliver healthy behaviors in return. As the program suggests,
"We do recover. Slowly, new persons emerge. Change is taking place."
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Good job eliminating those triggers!
Way to go, Kathy!!
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I must say that so many many times I have learned the less I know the better works best for me. My need to know does not serve me well the vast majority of times. Good for you with your dedication to staying on your own side of the street. The more I practice this the better things works out for me and the more peace I find. Way to work it hope it leads to more peace coming your way.
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