you have served me well (but not really) for most of my life. But now, alas, it is time to break free from your web. It is time that I let others do what they can do for themselves and I do what I can do for myself.
I had a realization just a bit ago...I was talking to a friend about an issue he has been struggling with, and I mentioned to him that there was a 12 step program for it! He sounded interested, so my codependent self immediately began to search the internet for local meetings and information and bombarded him with the information I found via text. I then realized shortly after what I had done!
I texted him back to apologize for this misstep, to which he replied that it really was not that big of a deal. I said, yes, it is. I need to allow people to do for themselves what they can do and not overstep my boundaries. I should have shared there was a 12 step and left it at that--if he was interested he would have looked up the information himself.
So thankful for this program and that I am learning to catch myself in these acts of "helping"...now to get to the point that I can stop myself before would be lovely!