Wed meeting 9:00 est topic: Acceptance

[jjabc]

I was looking up inspirational quotes last night to send to my niece who is having a hard time with an impending divorce (codie that I am). But instead of finding messages for her, I was smacked in the face with what I needed to read. I think my HP was telling me to focus on fixing me instead of trying to fix someone else. I’ll bet he is tired of telling me this. LOL

These are the quotes that I found:

“Ultimately, healing is coming to terms with things
as they are, rather than struggling to force them to
be as they once were, or as we would like them to be
to feel secure.”

“My vision can be so limiting. I often think the only possible outcomes are those I can imagine.”
The Courage To Change, Al-Anon

When I first came here, I did struggle with acceptance. I just couldn’t get the saying “it is what it is”. I thought I could fix it. That second quote really hit me last night. Why do I think that there couldn’t be other good outcomes that I don’t have to think up. Really, I am just not that smart.
I have been forced to let go, and let her HP take her where she needs to go. He is so much more creative than I am. My daughter is “out there”, “on the run from the popo”, and “non-communicado”. I am out of answers! I can’t, but he can.

Please come to share on coming to terms with things as they are?

[jjabc]

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[TooShyToScream]

This topic is so perfect for me! I found myself realizing today that "acceptance of the things I cannot change" was significantly more difficult for me than changing my own shortcomings, which, as I came to realize them, came a lot easier to me. I am working on acceptance at my own pace, but I know that this is what is most troublesome to me right now. I really hope I can come to this meeting, even if I end up being late. I'm not sure yet whether or not I'm going to go to my f2f tonight at 8, but even if I do I'll try to make it in time to share to this one! Thanks for the wonderful topic.