I just dug this up for some strange reason -- I wrote about this friend a few weeks back. Reading this reminded me of how much more strange and codependent things used to be. I forgot how much I was a human "doing," not a human "being" around her. Yowch. Very interesting....anyway, here goes....
So, in the pantheon of Cody issues I face, this is fairly minor, BUT I was amused so I thought I'd share.This female friend of mine, with whom I am recovering from rescuing constantly, has checked in with me today - by text, and by answering machine at a time when I'm rarely home - to see what's amiss with me. Amiss? I asked.
Yes. Apparently, she said, she senses a "disturbance in the force (mine); I seem "less animated than usual in person and on the phone."
I think that may mean that I seem more calm, not asking after her well-being constantly, and much less interested in managing her kids (one of whom is without questions one of the most feral children I have ever met), listening to her complain about her life and all the people she's trying (UNSUCCESSFULLY) to control. In short, I am not caretaking or rescuing and she wants me to get right back to it.
After the texts went back and forth, I said this would really be a conversation better had in actual conversation than by text.
So she promptly disappeared. My little hula hoop that I visualize around my feet for just such occasions has come in so handy today. I love my hula hoop. I do, I do, I really do.