Sad tonight...

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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby Gerilyn » Fri May 04, 2012 8:12 am

Dear Diane, Today truly is another day and I hope it is a better one for you. I know that I have those kind of days and even moments myself. Life sometimes overwhelms us. I really am sorry you are in a little funk, and I hope today is a little brighter for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love,
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby linda.f » Fri May 04, 2012 8:57 am

Praying for your comfort during this sad time.

We are here for you.

xo
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby drinkingwater » Fri May 04, 2012 9:03 am

::Hugs:: to my other Georgia redhead! This too shall pass, hopefully it already has.

Love you!!!
Lindsey
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby lucky43 » Fri May 04, 2012 9:07 am

Diane.

So, it's a new day today. I it finds you in a much better place. I can't say more than everyone else here. I always look for your posts as they are so inspirational and helpful to me. I almost always find something to take with me through my day from your shares. I know you have absolutely no idea how
many of us you help in that way and in your service to this website.

Bless you and have a better day!

(((HUGS)))

Genny
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby simplemom » Fri May 04, 2012 9:28 am

Dear Diane,

Interesting...I have been feeling blue myself...I have also been looking at why. I now know that I am relapsing :shock: as all this stinkin thinkin has crept in about lost opportunities within my family.

Need to keep my gratitude list front and center. It can be a mood buster!

{{Hugs}} and hoping this new day brings better things for you.
Karen (simplemom)
"I am not afraid of storms, I am learning to sail my own ship."
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby JanetsHope » Fri May 04, 2012 9:39 pm

Love you my friend. I typed what I thought was a well-thought out, compassionate
post last night. My HP must have thought otherwise, for it went poof! Just know I
am thinking of you and keeping you close to my heart as you work through your sad
feelings.

Biggest of hugs,

Janet
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the Courage to change the one I can,
and the Wisdom to know it's me!
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby DianeB » Sat May 05, 2012 9:08 am

I thank you all so dearly for all of your love and
support.

Sadness is a part of life. I haven't found a way to
eradicate it from my life.

I have found that I can feel it, I can allow it to simply
"be" in me. It is OK. It is a feeling, not a fact. I have
learned to give myself the gift of feeling those feelings
because I know that I will come out the other side.

For so many years, I wallowed in my feelings. Or I tried
to ignore them. I tried to eat them away. I have learned
to love being able to name and feel them.

I felt them the other night. I allowed them to be. I went
to bed and came to the morning refreshed and ready to
start another day. Those feeling did indeed pass.

I think sometimes that people believe if you are working
a good strong program, if your ALO is in recovery, that
there should be no sadness, no grief, no fear, no unhappiness
in your life. Not so....there is all of that. My program is how
I learn to work through those things. And work through them
I do!!

Hugs...my friends!
with Love

DianeB



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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby jjabc » Sat May 05, 2012 2:37 pm

Oh Diane,
I do understand that feeling. The only folks I have left are my daughter (and God only knows where she is) and one brother left. I get "down in the doldrums" too. Thank heavens I have my HP, the millions of family of choice here (including you), and other family of choice at my face to face, and even more family of choice at my temple. We are never alone, my friend. We are only a prayer, a thought, or a phone call away from those who care about us. Also, we can be the family to others that we wish we had.
I know we are not supposed to give advice so I won't I will share what I did today to pick me up off the floor.
1. hugged my dog
2. bought some healthy food for my fridge
3. bought a really really good smelling candle
4. called someone to watch the Derby with me and now I have to cook and shower, and can not lay in the bed today. (wink)
5. Changed my sheets and made up my bed (so I won't crawl back in it - I don't want to mess it up)
6. Came here to read.
7. Reached out to a friend who is sad but really wish we could hug
8. light my candle and soak in the tub
You are blessed with lots of us who love you my friend. We care about you and wished we lived closer.
Jay
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby Linda (lsv) » Sat May 05, 2012 4:26 pm

My Dear Di,

You are heard and loved. Sadness is a part of life. Just sending hugs and love.

Love,
Linda
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Re: Sad tonight...

Postby tavalon » Tue May 08, 2012 1:03 pm

DianeB wrote:I thank you all so dearly for all of your love and
support.

Sadness is a part of life. I haven't found a way to
eradicate it from my life.

I have found that I can feel it, I can allow it to simply
"be" in me. It is OK. It is a feeling, not a fact. I have
learned to give myself the gift of feeling those feelings
because I know that I will come out the other side.

For so many years, I wallowed in my feelings. Or I tried
to ignore them. I tried to eat them away. I have learned
to love being able to name and feel them.

I felt them the other night. I allowed them to be. I went
to bed and came to the morning refreshed and ready to
start another day. Those feeling did indeed pass.

I think sometimes that people believe if you are working
a good strong program, if your ALO is in recovery, that
there should be no sadness, no grief, no fear, no unhappiness
in your life. Not so....there is all of that. My program is how
I learn to work through those things. And work through them
I do!!

Hugs...my friends!

One of the things I really appreciate about you is you could set yourself up as a governor here, but you espouse the steps by serving and you don't keep your dirty laundry to yourself so any on us inclined to glom on to one who is so wise get to see that even the wisest must work the program. When you tell us your struggles, I am reminded that you are just like the rest of us, just trying to get healed. Not that I would wish trials and tribulations on any of us, but seeing it in you, I can't put on that "authority" throne and I don't think that would be any good for me and thee.

I do hope happier moments are coming too.
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