New to Nar-anon

[Hope4sanity]

New to the forum but not the addiction. My AH and I have been together since 1998..we split due to his addiction in 2006. He went to prison before and after we split up due to the addiction..I took him back after 4 yrs and him being sober on his own for a year (3 yrs of the sobriety was in prison) things were good for a while, we lived seperately and the minute he was off of parole he took off to his homestate and relapsed..a month worth of relapse..He got sober again and I let him move in..things were great for over a year...then someone at work did it in front of him and this is where it begins again for the past 5 months it has been hell...he spent $1500 in a couple of days..he was not addicted when we got together but not to long after we got together, doing the early 20 yr olds experimenting, it started to become an everyday thing for him...I tried things, but was fortunate enough to stop and not become an addict...he is now living somewhere else, where he doesnt know anywhere to get it, and in counseling. He is such a good person with a heart of gold when he is sober. But the addict in him has taken everything but my life...I am not an enabler..I will not give him money or avoid confronting him. But it hurts still how much they don't care when they are messed up...anyway, found a meeting where I live finally, it's new and I thank God I found it. I have never been to a meeting. I know I need f2f as well as online support. The stress had made me physically ill...with him gone I can breathe a little easier..we talk on the phone and I am supporting him morallly but that's it. No money, I don't sugarcoat it or hide it for him...but I know I need help too, so I don't go crazy...

[TooManyHats]

Welcome to our Family! It sounds like you've already taken a big first step in admitting you need help. Well, you've landed in the right place! And face to face meetings are great! We have meetings here online, too!

I'm so sorry you're going through this, but you're now surrounded with people who understand. (((HUGS)))

Welcome! Keep Coming Back!

[Cheryl]

Welcome, and with this program, there is hope for sanity. And here, you will never be alone. We have different stories but we all travel the same journey. Through this program, we find recovery for ourselves. Keep coming back. We are here for you!

love,
Cheryl

[Believer]

Welcome, Love your name, and if you choose to work this program you too can find your "HOPE FOR SANITY" here. So many of us have myself included.

peace Marie

[Hope4sanity]

Thanks to all.. it's been a long hard road..I'm not ready to give up on him but I know Ihave to take care of myself...

[evergrowing]

The good news is that you don't have to give up until you are ready. We will not judge you for staying or leaving your husband. This is a place where you get support so you can find your own answers. The only time we say 'leave now' is if there is physical abuse happening.

It was a big relief to me when I first came here, someone told me I shouldn't make any major decisions about my relationship until I worked the steps with a sponsor for 6 - 12 months. It was a big weight off my shoulders. I could put that question on the shelf for a bit. It honestly consumed so much of my time that I didn't have room for much else. So when I put that question down, I freed up my time so I could really focus on healing myself and working this program.

It has given me sanity, serenity, appreciation, awareness... I could go on and on. I am forever thankful to this program and the gifts I have received just by showing up.

So glad you found us. Welcome, welcome, welcome! Keep coming back!

[Hope4sanity]

Thank you evergrowing. I have alot to learn about taking care of me and what I need to do. I want to support his recovery. He is not abusive physically, and we get along so well when he is sober. We don't argue or anything. I will remember to put that decision on the shelf for now...he asked me to wait and not to give up. I did not say yes or no to that. There is a f2f on Tuesdays..it will be my first meeting. I just found it lastnight online but is was too late. I'm ready for my own recovery. I never really knew that I needed it too until recently. Thank you..this site and all of you are a blessing!

[wheretoturn]

Welcome to the site. There are some great people on here willing to listen and understand. You will never be completely alone again. I need a lot of help too. I was on here faithfully for a couple of months, and then got too busy (or so I thought) and got away from it.

We all have our story, but we all have a common thread of having an addicted love one in our lives.

Welcome

Vicki

[Christina]

Welcome!

I am pretty much new-comer as well...only been around a few weeks. But in that few weeks, I have realized that my "hope for sanity" begins here and with the program!

Even if I can't attend many online meetings...even if I don't post everyday...I READ posts here at the start of every single day. It helps me keep things in perspective.

The best thing about this program is knowing you are not alone

[shesajar]

Hugs!

Thanks for being here, and letting us be here for you.