I'm Back Again

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I'm Back Again

Postby elainepere » Fri Mar 16, 2012 10:48 pm

I really don't want to be back but I am.
I thought for sure it was all over but it's not.
I see the signs, ever so silent, but they are there.
Does it ever end? I keep asking myself.
It's easier this time, but I'm still so sad.
I had such hopes for my son.
I know I need to to focus on me, & I am trying.
Elaine
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby Aggie » Fri Mar 16, 2012 10:51 pm

I understand and I'm sorry you are sad.
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby hangingon » Fri Mar 16, 2012 11:05 pm

I am sorry you are sad, and sorry that you have to go through this (again). I hope you find comfort within this forum and it helps to give you strength and courage.
Think that the reasons that elude you will one day catch up, that the lessons that have stumped you will one day bring you joy, and the sorrows that have crippled you will soon give you wings.
Peace
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby jjabc » Fri Mar 16, 2012 11:05 pm

Elaine
I am glad you are back, but sad for the circumstances. I have missed you.
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby jac » Fri Mar 16, 2012 11:18 pm

The reason why I continue to work my program is because I do not know
what tomorrow will bring. Just for today things are going well. For me, this
is a life long journey.....there is no finish line.

With love,
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby drinkingwater » Fri Mar 16, 2012 11:22 pm

Glad you knew where to come, my friend. Sending you lots of hugs.

:)
Lindsey
"If you're going through hell... keep going." -- Winston Churchill
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby river rock » Sat Mar 17, 2012 12:14 am

welcome back!
I have missed you. I hate
that you had to come back, but
we are family arent we? This is
for you, you know the drill and we
are here for you!!
Love ya River rock
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby Tako » Sat Mar 17, 2012 12:30 am

Both of the addicts in my life have told me how important it was for me to have my own program, because they really had nothing to offer me while in the throws of their disease. In Nar-Anon I found the support that I needed and I was given all the opportunities to change my life.

I came and never left because I never found anything else that filled my life with such hope and inspiration.

If you're back, it's for a very important reason.

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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby simplemom » Sat Mar 17, 2012 10:43 am

Never lose hope…

During this time in my life I continue to work the principles of this program. I will never leave because it has brought such beautiful new ideas into my life despite what is swirling around me.

I have had many days of feeling sad and try to understand the reason for it. I work hard to dispel those feelings when I realize that I have no control over what my son does. I have learned that worrying is a waste of my time because there are things I can do as a diversion from these negative attitudes and the outcome is never what I thought it would be.

Practicing patience is tough for me, to let things develop, and that is why I will continue to put the focus on me as I still want to jump in and fix things. I have learned that the addict can figure it out on his time not mine. There is hope not only for you but for your son. Keep working it!
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby mommalu » Sat Mar 17, 2012 12:29 pm

My dear Elaine:

Welcome home.
You have been missed.
Hugging you tight.
You are not alone.
There is hope.

Lu
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby Living and Learning » Sat Mar 17, 2012 3:37 pm

I also come and go because at the moment there is no crisis and also the new sad stories sometime make me so sad. Drugs are affecting so many families. But Elaine try to remember you got through the crisis before and you can do it again. There is hope and I have seen ups and downs in my ALO too so you are so not alone. I have learned to enjoy the time things are going well and hope it is for good but I know it can change in a heart beat. Hang in there. Hugs, Elaine
None of us have all the answers and even if we did new questions would arise.
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby dmom » Sat Mar 17, 2012 4:21 pm

Welcome back ((((hug)))))
So comforting to know this wonderful forum family is here and that we are not alone.
So sorry for the pain you are feeling.
I also have a son who is struggling with an addiction.
It is hard to do this alone, I am so thankful for being able to lean on others here.
keep coming back

love you,
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby Cheryl » Sat Mar 17, 2012 4:51 pm

Dear Elaine,

I have come and gone several times. But it seems that I just can't stay away. Just as for the addict, our recovery is just for today. Staying helps me keep my life centered, it helps me with continued growth. I'm a lifer!

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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby pabrown » Sat Mar 17, 2012 5:07 pm

Welcome Back, I am so grateful for this forum and the fact the light is always on.
Sorry you are sad but glad you knew where to come.

((Hugs))

Patsy
today I choose to live with gratitude for the LOVE that fills my heart,
the PEACE that rests within my spirit,
and the voice of HOPE that says...all things are possible.
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Re: I'm Back Again

Postby DianeB » Sat Mar 17, 2012 5:34 pm

Welcome home!

I understand reasons for not wanting to be here,
heck, I wish there was no need for Nar-Anon.

I learned that I only have this one day....thus
One Day at a Time (duh!) and in order to maintain
all that I have gained through this program I have
to keep coming back. Not being here only allows
me to become lazy and slip back into unhealthy
behaviors.

Keeping me in peace and serenity when life throws
it's nastiest at me is so important to me....I just have
to keep my focus on me and this program - daily.

Hugging you tight!
with Love

DianeB



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