In order to access the new chat room for meetings please
click on the Icon that says CHAT in the upper right of this screen.
Access for HTML5 users (I-Phone, I-Pad, I- whaterer!)
In order to access the Chat Room you will need to do so
in a separate window.
Copy this into your Browser:
You will then enter the chatroom in a seperate window.
You must be a forum member in good standing to attend meetings.
Please review and become familiar with the Forum, Meeting and
Chat Room guidelines. A listing of Meeting Schedules and Meeting Chairs is
contained in Announcements.
These guidelines have been written in conjunction with our forum guidelines to help keep our meetings healthy. We have used the 12 traditions, Keeping Our Meetings Healthy, Guidelines for Healthy Meetings and The NarAnon Family Group Guide to Local Services.
It is our goal to:
- Start and end the meetings on time
Follow the Meeting Script
Read the steps and traditions at each meeting
Read only from conference approved literature (CAL)
Hold step and tradition study meetings
Become familiar with the Guide to Local Services
Respect each member’s viewpoint
The Chat Room is available for Nar-Anon Family Group Members to use for meetings and fellowship following the meetings. The Chat Room can be used by those members who need to speak one on one with another Nar-Anon family member or as part of a group for the purposes of recovery other than those times of regularly scheduled meetings to have recovery based conversations so that we might build the bonds of fellowship between members.
However, the Chat Room is reserved exclusively for Meetings on their regularly scheduled time: (all times are EST)
- Sunday - 8:00 pm
Monday - 9:00 pm
Tuesday - 9:00 pm
Wednesday - 1:00 pm and 9:00 pm
Thursday - 8:00 pm and 11:00 pm
Friday - 9:00 pm
Saturday - 8:00 pm
We stick as closely as possible to the format of our face to face meetings. It is suggested that where possible face to face meetings be attended as well as our online meetings. (You can find a list of meetings and conventions and order conference approved literature at http://www.nar-anon.org/Nar-Anon/Nar-Anon_Home.html)
We may gather in the meeting room before a meeting and may stay afterward as we would following a face to face meeting for fellowship. Discussions before and after the meetings should always be polite, recovery related, kind and considerate. No offensive language, inappropriate discussions of controversial subjects or reading materials.
In a meeting situation we adhere to certain guidelines to ensure our meetings are healthy. The meeting chair will follow a script available to copy and paste from the forum to ensure consistency.
Sometimes a member may wish to call an impromptu meeting. If this is the case we ask that this be posted on the forum so that all members can have an opportunity to attend.
We avoid crosstalk- In Nar-Anon, crosstalk refers to a specific type of behavior that is strongly discouraged among members during a meeting. Crosstalk typically means questioning or interrupting the person who is currently sharing, giving direct advice to others who have already shared, speaking directly to another person rather than to the group, or telling another member how to think, act or feel. To learn more about this topic see pamphlet Appropriate Sharing & Crosstalk. P116.
We avoid giving advice – Our program teaches us that we do not give advice. What works for one person may not work for another. Telling someone else what to do deprives them of the chance to find their own solution. Some people come straight out and ask for advice. We can suggest that listening at meetings, finding a sponsor and working the steps will help them find the answers they are seeking. We can only share our experience, strength and hope. Sometimes newcomers come to our meetings looking for suggestions of treatment centers for their loved ones. Since this does not relate to Nar-Anon nor does Nar-Anon have any opinion on outside issues, we suggest that they may stay after the meeting to discuss this.
Anonymity is to be respected at all times. No member should ask for personal details of another member. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation for all our traditions. For members who wish to exchange personal details we advise caution and suggest the safest way of doing this is to join the contact list.
Anything we share in meetings stays in the room. We protect members by not discussing the stories we hear outside of the meeting and never divulging names or personal details. This includes on the forum. WHO YOU SEE HERE-WHAT YOU HEAR HERE, WHEN YOU LEAVE HERE-LET IT STAY HERE.
This room can also be used for those who are in a crisis situation and would like the opportunity to speak with another Nar-Anon Family Group Member. It should be noted that we have no formal crisis training and our role is only to provide experience, strength and hope based on our own experiences. Or to give those in need an opportunity to vent without fear of judgment. (If you are feeling suicidal or in imminent danger our suggestion is that you contact emergency services). There may be occasions when a member is not available to meet you.
This room is also a place for people to meet and have recovery based conversations so that we might build our fellowship between members.
We avoid hanging out alone in either room or for general chit chat.
Thank you for reading and agreeing to ‘Keep Our Meetings Healthy’. Please direct any questions or feedback to a member of the moderating team.
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