Finding a Sponsor

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Finding a Sponsor

Post by Naranon_Admin » Fri Mar 03, 2017 12:22 pm

Seems to a question we get regularly....

We hear this all the time....meetings, sponsor, steps!

But getting that sponsor is easier said than done sometimes.

There are numerous requests for a SPONSOR list. There is none.

We have a CONTACT list here. Just as in a f2f, people who are willing
to be contacted sign up for the list so that they can further share their experience,
strength and hopes with each other. This list is to foster "contact" within our
fellowship, to have human contact with those who truly understand, to hear
a voice who knows you and cares like no others and can hold you hand when you
need it and laugh with you when you need that too.

There are a few individuals on this list who are willing to be sponsors, and it will be
noted as to their ability to sponsor - if they are available or unavailable
(due to having too many sponsees or for personal reasons). There are only a
couple who are currently available to sponsor.

The best way to get a sponsor is to go to f2f meetings. If you have both
Nar-Anon and Al-Anon go to each. Perhaps if your Nar-Anon does not sponsor,
the Al-Anon might. Drive out of your comfort range to meetings where you
might find a sponsor who will work with you. It will be well worth the effort.
Question yourself...what lengths will you go for your recovery?

If your group doesn't have sponsorship, perhaps suggest that they hold Step
meetings to help to further the knowledge of working the Steps. Hold a
separate Step meeting once a month on a different night. Those interested
can work the Steps....who knows what new Sponsors will spring forth from these

Not everyone is a sponsor, nor does everyone want to be a sponsor. Being
a sponsor is a long term commitment to another human being. Not everyone
wants to do that. Understandable.

Being a sponsor is an individual decision but has some basis in experience...
working with a sponsor yourself, working through your 12 steps, determining
with your sponsor's guidance if you are ready to accept the commitment of
sponsorship. Lots to think about.

So - the problem is....there are few sponsors. Very few. There are few people
willing to be sponsors. It is what it is.

Yet this program goes on. People find ways to work the program with and without sponsors.

Thoughts on things to do until...

-get to every meeting possible, you never know where a sponsor will appear
-go to meetings every week - no excuses
-use the meetings as your sponsor, listen and learn
-suggest Step meetings to further the group knowledge
-order the literature on Sponsorship
-get the Al-Anon book "Paths to Recovery" (CAL approved and
can be ordered from It details out the Steps and members experiences.
A great way to get started on learning the Steps.
-order the Nar-Anon 36, it details out the first few steps with lots of
good info and questions to challenge you
-get the contact list and reach out to your fellowship
-come to the online meetings
-share on the forum and "listen" and "learn"
-keep a journal, writing about your journey
-go to Nar-Anon conventions - lots of learning and exposure for sponsors

There is a lack of sponsors available on the Forum for long distance
sponsorship. There is a lack of sponsors in the meetings. But there
is no lack of good healthy Nar-Anon program. There is no lack of
fantastic support within the fellowship. It may take awhile to
find that sponsor....but it doesn't stop you from learning. It doesn't
stop you from reaching out to your fellowship and learning from those
who have walked before you.


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