My boy is gone

Coping with the loss of a loved one.
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My boy is gone

Post by Faith4me » Tue Aug 29, 2017 6:21 pm

Hello family,

My son passed on August 18th. The fight is over. The nightmare of addiction has ended and the excruciating pain of grief has begun. It was a 15 year journey of watching my son suffer with the decease of addiction. I always had hope, I prayed and walked by faith, but God had other plans for my boy. I feel scared, lost, confused. I don't know what to do. Can you please share what has worked for you during your pain of grieving. :cry: :cry:

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Post by vscook » Tue Aug 29, 2017 8:18 pm

I am so very sorry for your loss. My husband passed away four years ago from alcohol-related causes. One of the best things you can do is find a support group or a therapist to help you work through the grieving process. Sending hugs and prayers.
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Post by flash » Tue Aug 29, 2017 10:21 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. My sister's only son passed to suicide a couple years ago.
She dove head first into fighting a million causes to prevent herself from feeling the pain and grief.
It caught up to her.
I don't believe there is any one way.
May you feel the love of those around you and the love of your son always.

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Post by Dannie » Tue Aug 29, 2017 11:10 pm

I don't know what to share other than how sorry I am that you are going through this. I always anticipate the call that something has happened to my AS who has progressively gotten worse over the past ten years. I would think that staying busy with positive things, support groups, and family and friends would be what I would gravitate to. My friend (I just posted on this yesterday) lost her son two weeks ago to a heroin overdose and I was there with her when it happened. She has immersed herself into keeping busy and looking to her HP for peace. I am still shaken up about it so I listen to music, clean, work, read books, and I come here often.

I am so sorry. We are all here for you.

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Post by 4me » Wed Aug 30, 2017 2:49 am

Hugs. I am so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you and yours in my prayers. We are here for you, for support. Please don't feel alone in this.

I'm going to a candlelight vigil on Thursday August 31st. I'll add your son to the list of who I hold my candle for. It's International Overdose Awareness Day. There will be events all over the world. Check their website for events in your area. By going you might meet others in your area that might know of grief programs for loved ones that have suffered this tragedy.

Something that helps me in grief is to write about my feelings. The other thing I've used is my tear bottle. Mine is surrounded by a group of hand holding friends.

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Post by dtosh » Wed Aug 30, 2017 3:29 am

I am very sorry for your loss. I suggest you find a grief support group to attend. If there is a GRASP (Grief Recovery After Substance Passing) group near you, it would help a lot since everyone in attendance lost someone to drugs and you will not feel alone.
Thank you for listening.

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Post by jac » Wed Aug 30, 2017 9:05 am

Prayers for peace and comfort. Gratefully and very thankfully I have not
suffered this type of unimaginable loss. My heart hurts for your beloved son, you,
and all who love him.

With love and hugs,
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Post by slm219 » Wed Aug 30, 2017 11:16 am

I am so so sorry for your loss. Words are not enough......
Just know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.....
We are here for you
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Post by EMPTY » Wed Aug 30, 2017 12:51 pm

I too am so very sorry for your lose.
May the Lord hold you close and may He embrace
your son.
There aren't any words except my sympathy to you and your family.


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Post by Faith4me » Wed Aug 30, 2017 1:33 pm

Thank you family! Today i feel sad, lost and confused. I'm trying to understand my HP, as to why my son was not saved. I prayed, walked by faith, and here we are. It was a very painful roller coaster for 15 years. I have been grieving my son for a long time. I will visit my therapists tomorrow and will be starting grieving concelling at my church. I pray for all of you who are also living with the nightmare of addiction. May we all feel the peace that surpasses all understanding.

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Post by SDIN2T » Wed Aug 30, 2017 2:21 pm

I am so so sorry.
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Post by roadrunner » Thu Aug 31, 2017 6:27 pm

Words cannot express my sorrow - I'll keep you in my prayers.

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Post by linda.f » Fri Sep 01, 2017 8:03 am

I am sending prayers of comfort to you and your family.
We have had multiple members lose their loved ones in our
group. Some have stayed and some have not come back. I
can honestly tell you the ones that have come back have
shown remarkable growth. They share their pain, their truth,
their honesty and their fears. It is just one of many ways to
grieve. Sadly whether our addicts are active or not or have
passed on, the only requirement for membership is that we have
been affected by the disease of Addiction.

Stay close we are here for you, you are loved.


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Post by LML » Fri Sep 01, 2017 2:04 pm

No words can make this pain go away. . . .
Just know that you’re surrounded by people who care.

Prayers for comfort and peace ☮️

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Post by cfrost77 » Sun Sep 03, 2017 11:49 am

Honey....I know how you feel. My son died from an alcohol related accident. Losing a child is the worse thing ever. I am so sorry. Now my only living son is addicted to heroin. I worry constantly that I will get another call that he is dead. Go to as many meetings as you can and seek support. I will say it gets better with time but it is something you will live with for the rest of your life. Be kind to yourself.


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