My beautiful niece

Coping with the loss of a loved one.
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My beautiful niece

Post by christyjoyallen » Sun Apr 23, 2017 10:47 pm

I'm sitting here trying to find the words. My niece is gone. 24 year old and gone. I can't seem to wrap my mind around it...just doesn't seem real. How do I process this?

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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by 4me » Mon Apr 24, 2017 12:59 am

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I will pray for you and yours.

A life so young, so many tragedies in addiction
We understand here, hugs. You've found a place
of support for those living with addicts and those
not, all came from tragedy most in crisis some
for same reason you shared.

Much healing practice is offered to deal with the
pain. Here as well as a lot in the main forum.

I can't say I've faced the loss of an addict in this
way, just for today (JFT). Some here have faced it.
I did lose a toddler long ago. The young so hard to
let go but through choice addicts choose a life that
could lead any of them there, the fear of it can
render one frozen, unable to process. Self care
can suffer. Until you begin to function.

I know I can't make this any easier, only you and
yours can choose a time and place of healing.
I can only share my experience to remember the
good times with my toddler but it's a bit poignant

Keep coming back, the lights on 24/7. Other unique
perspectives will come, take what works, leave the
rest, what doesn't work for you.



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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by DeanW » Mon Apr 24, 2017 9:20 am

I agree with you. So hard to process such a loss.

I always thought "one day at a time" was a lame cliche. I now understand it to be a real cornerstone in acceptance and recovery. God bless you and your family. So sorry.

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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by AngelMom » Mon Apr 24, 2017 10:10 am

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter four years ago at the age of 26. This initial period is full of questions and almost unbearable. On another website I read a post by an addict reaching for sobriety. She was responding to a grieving mom looking for answers. She said that she believes that addicts are often where they are to help someone else in their journey. After these years I choose to look at the bigger picture. I choose to believe that during her years of addiction she said or did things that influenced other addicts in a positive way. Addicts listen to other addicts. She was in rehabs and jail. She had a great heart. I know that two of her friends got clean and stayed clean to this day due to my daughters death. She could not save herself, but I am sure that she saved others along the way. I hope that you can find your peace. Prayers for you and your family.

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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by Angelikoula » Thu Apr 27, 2017 2:25 am

My daughter died November 7, 2016 and I'm still trying to process it.
It's impossible.

I'm very sorry for your loss.
Sadly, you and your family are in for a very rough journey.

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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by Lauraleeg » Fri May 19, 2017 4:40 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words.
Dwell in Possibility.

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Re: My beautiful niece

Post by hope1 » Mon May 22, 2017 12:16 pm

I am so sorry about the loss of your niece. I lost my brother many years ago now due to addiction. I still think about him often and wonder how his life could have been different if not for this dreadful disease. I have come to a place of acceptance over time but it is a journey and a very individual personal one.

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