Hi Deb! Welcome to our Forum family--where ever your travels may take you, we're just a laptop & internet click away. You are not alone!
You mentioned that you find yourself defending and making excuses for your husband.
In our Nar-Anon little blue booklet, on page 4, under the heading "The Family" we read:
" For our addicted siblings, friend and employee (and spouse/child) we may cover for him, blame him or excuse his unacceptable behavior. We worry, we take on the addict's responsibilites, we make excuses, and we try to cover up for him---this is our anxiety--and as a result, we become enablers."
You have come to the right place--we understand, as few others can, the insanity of addiction and how it affects our lives. By coming to Nar-Anon, we learn that we can find a better way to llve...one day at a time.
Remember the 3"C"s:
You did not cause it (his addiction)
You cannot control it
You cannont cure it.
I hope you will keep coming back--the Nar-Anon program works if you work it!! HONEST!!
We have meetings every night--there is a meeting tonight at 8:00pm (Eastern). Simply click on the word "Chat" found on the upper right corner of this screen.
Under "Announcements" there is a listing for "CAL Literature"--this where you can order our Nar-Anon literature.
(((Hugs))) Looking forward to seeing you at a meeting soon.
On the path to discover the peace of God, which transends all understanding.