Meeting Topic Wed 1/31/18 8pm LIVE AND LET LIVE

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Meeting Topic Wed 1/31/18 8pm LIVE AND LET LIVE

Post by MATT'S MOM » Tue Jan 30, 2018 7:12 am

Wed 1-31-18 LIVE AND LET LIVE

Date and time of meeting: WED 1-31-18 8 pm Eastern
Topic: LIVE AND LET LIVE
Discussion leader: MATT’S MOM

From SESH page56 – THOUGHT FOR TODAY: “I can help my addicted loved one best by allowing him the freedom to live his own life and make his own choices. In turn, I must remind myself daily to live and let live!”

“We might be tempted to release the butterfly from her cocoon. It is human nature to want to assist, but if we do, she will fall to the ground and die; the struggle to free herself strengthens her wings enough to survive and fly.” -- Eunice Brown, The Compassionate Friends Magazine, February-March 2006.

What makes me feel the need to “fix” my alo? Why can’t I let him make his own decisions without feeling like I have to tell him how and what to do? Like the butterfly struggling out of the cocoon, this is the way that he needs to learn how to survive? “I realize that when I try to control and manage the addict’s life, it is based on my own fears and a lack of respect for him. I appear to be saying that I think the addict is clearly not capable of doing things for himself and he will be harmed.”

This is my illness and it can be overwhelming. – I may be standing in his way and I am certainly not doing myself any good. If I continue to enable, I am teaching him to rely on me – not himself. I am enmeshing myself even more in his life, neither of us grow this way.

So for my sanity, my health, I need to let go - let him live his life and concentrate on living my life. Working on me.

Let’s take a look at how we are doing with “live and let live”.


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Re: Meeting Topic Wed 1/31/18 8pm LIVE AND LET LIVE

Post by MissingHim2016 » Tue Jan 30, 2018 6:21 pm

Bump.

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Re: Meeting Topic Wed 1/31/18 8pm LIVE AND LET LIVE

Post by MATT'S MOM » Wed Jan 31, 2018 12:05 pm

bump

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Re: Meeting Topic Wed 1/31/18 8pm LIVE AND LET LIVE

Post by MATT'S MOM » Wed Jan 31, 2018 7:35 pm

bump -- see you all tonight at 8

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