The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by NeoMom » Thu Jan 25, 2018 8:39 am

I'm very sorry .. so sad.

My condolences to you and yours.

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by janiemarie » Thu Jan 25, 2018 10:51 am

Oh JR I just weep reading your post
For the powerlessness of it all
for the saddness of it all
for the senseless loss of another young souls potential

I'm not meant to understand.
Just accept
But yes I believe our HP weeps with us as we continue to make piss poor destructive choices.
And he also gives us strength or carries us when we need.

Addiction really sucks

I am so very sorry for your loss
Prayers for strength for you all
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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by adzmom » Thu Jan 25, 2018 11:15 am

I understand the shaking off your faith, I am recovering now gro. that shackiness...sorry for your lost....huggssss

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by slm219 » Thu Jan 25, 2018 5:38 pm

I am so sorry JR....my condolences to all of you.

A true nightmare....and yes addiction sucks.
I waited to comment on your post because I have unfortunately struggled with this....
it shakes my faith in my HP and we are to trust in a plan we don’t understand. I know I am powerless over this and I know I have to accept the reality.
We lost our one son 7 years ago on Christmas Eve...homeless and alone. I will never understand....

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Post by hope1 » Fri Jan 26, 2018 2:58 am

It was with tear filled eyes that i read your share about another precious young person losing the battle with this disease. It churns up the fear that we all have that it may be our child next. I know that all the worry in the world isn't going to change the outcome, I can't love them out of it. None of us would be here if that was the case. It brings me back time and time again to what can i do? I can practice kindness and compassion to everyone that i come across on a daily basis for i do not know what burdens they bear. I am so deeply sorry for your friends loss of their beloved son.

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Post by SDIN2T » Mon Jan 29, 2018 11:33 am

I wanted to follow up and thank everyone for such meaningful and thoughtful responses. I have literally reread everyone's sharing so many many times this past week because each one offered a unique perspective that made a difference. Your prayers, compassion, and genuine caring has really helped me through this difficult time and I want you all to know how much I appreciated it. Even though we all suffer loving someone with this disease, it's that suffering that binds us together and gives us hope to find serenity and peace.

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by justmom » Mon Jan 29, 2018 3:42 pm

I am so sorry for your friends loss and yours also. I lost my only son last March he was 42 and had been an addict since 17. He finally ended his struggle
one night with pain medication and alcohol. Its been a year of soul searching, guilt and what else should we have done to help him. I realize now we did all we could have we loved him and let go , and let God. I am thankful our last word were I love you. That is all any of us can do . Let go and Let God . May God bless you. xxxRegina

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by Dannie » Wed Jan 31, 2018 3:31 pm

I am so saddened to hear this. All of our worst fears here in this group. I do believe in my HP but I have no words to explain how to accept these terrible things any easier. I feel the same way you do. Positive thoughts and prayers for you and your friends at this most difficult time.

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Re: The Difficulty in Accepting My HP's Plan

Post by linda.f » Thu Feb 01, 2018 12:02 pm

A very sad story. Sadly addiction doesn't always end well.
My son lost three friends including his exgf last year. Such a travesty
of life. It can get very depressing especially when you meet them and they
have been to your house and then you get the news they are gone.
My condolences to you, may the program continue to hold you up and
give you comfort during this time.

As for questioning HP, all I have to do is tell myself that addiction is so
much bigger than me.

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