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A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2018 1:36 pm
by DianeB
Looking ahead.

It is usually said as a positive reinforcement, such as...

Look at all you have ahead of you.

For me, as the mother of an addict....not so much.

Looking ahead filled me with dread. With fear. With every worst case
scenario my overactive brain can dredge up.

It was through this program and the support of my many friends and sponsor
that I came to understand the absolute truth in living for each day. Not
looking ahead. Looking ahead only caused me disappointment.

I learned that there is no crystal ball. There is no guarantee. For me or
for my son. For anyone. We truly only have this very moment.

I learned so many things about staying present. I learned my own ways
to bring myself back to the present and out of the future. I learned to be
grateful that I had this one day. That my son was still alive. That both my
children and husband were alive and loved.

It wasn't an easy journey. It required a great deal of work on my part. It
required me to learn how to focus on one moment. It required me to find
even the smallest gratitude when all looked bleak. It lead me to being so
very thankful, grateful and blessed even amidst the darkest days.

Looking back on all these many years I can tell you for certain that all my
looking forward never resulted in what I imagined.

Remember the 95% rule.....95% of the things you imagine do not happen.
The other 5% happen differently than what you thought.

I leave you with this....

Look to this day:
For it is life, the very life of life.
In its brief course
Lie all the verities and realities of your existence.
The bliss of growth,
The glory of action,
The splendour of achievement
Are but experiences of time.

For yesterday is but a dream
And tomorrow is only a vision;
And today well-lived, makes
Yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well therefore to this day;
Such is the salutation to the ever-new dawn!


Kalidasa (4th Century - 5th Century / Ujjain / India)

Blessings to each of you this day

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2018 3:17 pm
by DeanW
Yesterday is but a dream - so true.

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2018 7:23 pm
by MarieW
I need to embroidery this and hang it on my wall:
Today well-lived makes
Yesterday a dream of happiness
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Thank you for sharing!

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2018 7:42 pm
by HollyTx
Diane,

Thank you for the reminder.

"Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is a mystery.
Today is a gift.
That is why they call it the present."
~Master Oogway, Kung Fu Panda

Holly

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Fri Jan 05, 2018 6:29 pm
by MissingHim2016
TYFS.

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Fri Jan 05, 2018 11:16 pm
by Claytonmomof2
To live in the present... not looking ahead or looking back is very difficult but I’m trying to embrace that....


“It required me to find
even the smallest gratitude when all looked bleak. It lead me to being so
very thankful, grateful and blessed even amidst the darkest days.”


Very impactful...Thank you for sharing!

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Sat Jan 06, 2018 1:42 pm
by vscook
My life is so much better than before I came to these rooms. Better, yes - easy, no. But Nar-anon gives me the tools to face each day, and I am thankful for that. The poem you shared, which is on the first page of the Blue Booklet, spoke to me the very first time I read it and it remains a touchstone. TYFS.

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Sun Jan 07, 2018 12:06 pm
by Dannie
Good reminders this morning. Thank you!

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 5:37 pm
by EMPTY
As Always...Thank You.

Re: A new year and looking ahead

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 11:00 pm
by kcs66
I'm so glad I took a few minutes to read this post before bed tonight. Thank you for sharing! I ended my day with a yoga class to quiet my anxious mind... and a few minutes of reading on this site. Feeling even better after reading the poem :)