Feeling helpless

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

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Feeling helpless

Post by Lem3 » Thu Dec 28, 2017 9:38 am

I am new to this site but the stories are all so familiar. I have been with my abf for over 6 years. He has chronic back pain and is addicted to pain killers. He has been in and out of counseling, in and out of jail, the whole song and dance. A little over a year ago I started going to nar anon classes and it really helped me find my HP and in return I believe it helped him. I chose how to live my life not his addicition. I chose to be with him but not when he was high. The classes I went too were not close by so I started to go to them less and less. I am really glad I found this site because my boyfriend went on a binge after Christmas. It all happened so quickly! I didn't handle it well. I got angry, the yelling started and I know better that I can't talk to him when he is in that state. We can't have a conversation I know that. It was like everything I learned went out the window so fast. It was just I haven't seen that person or side of him in such a long time and all the horrible memories came rushing back. I made him leave if he was going to be high. He is staying at his brothers house because I wasn't in the right frame of mind. I am not sure how long this binge is going to last. I am sure he will show up sooner or later. I am not sure how long his brother will keep him there. I just need to remember my 3 c's and not let this run my life. I know it's just a set back but it feels like we are back to square 1. Feeling helpless.
Thanks for listening

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Re: Feeling helpless

Post by HollyTx » Thu Dec 28, 2017 9:39 am

Hang in there.

Sending you love and encouragement.


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Re: Feeling helpless

Post by SDIN2T » Thu Dec 28, 2017 10:41 am

For me, Square 1 = Step 1

I live daily in Steps 1, 2 ,3.

Step 1 is the foundation of my recovery program. Regardless of what my addicts do, I know I am completely powerless and that gives me the ability understand Acceptance and Surrender.

And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life - JK Rowling

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