Monday 12/18 TOPIC: Expectations

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Monday 12/18 TOPIC: Expectations

Post by lbogie » Mon Dec 18, 2017 12:25 am

Meeting Topic Post: Expectations
Date and time of meeting: Monday December 18, 2017 8:00 p.m. EST
Discussion leader: Lois (lbogie)
Personalized Topic Comments: Tis the Season....... to be Jolly!

~ SESH March 16
"I am responsible for my expectations. I set them and I can change them. In so doing, I have control over my recovery and some of the hurts in my life"

I want to be Jolly! I want to feel Peace and Serenity in this Season of Love and Light! How can this feat be accomplished? For me, I've been working on letting go of expectations, accepting what IS and what I have in my life! Gratitude is Huge!

Expectations usually lead to disappointments and resentments for me! When I "expect" things to happen, or for people to do or not do things, it's just another form of trying to control people and things I have no control over.

With various Holiday Seasons upon us, let US try and keep the focus on US and OUR recovery. Let US try and remember to take it one day at a time and enjoy the simple moments. Let US try and enjoy what IS in our lives and what we DO have.

With Holidays (or any random day), usually comes stress. Stress of trying to please everyone else, trying to make everything "perfect" and trying to accomplish too much! We tend to overextend ourselves trying to please everyone else. This year, let's try and "treat" ourselves and do what makes US happy! Let's consider OUR thoughts, feelings, wants, needs and desires. Remember, WE are important and we are so worth it!!

Happiness lies within...........

"Expectation feeds frustration. It is an unhealthy attachment to people, things, and outcomes we wish we could control; but don't".
~ Dr. Steve Maraboli

Please join us on Monday 12/18 @ 8pm EST and share our thoughts on expectations or anything on your heart!

Hope to see you there.
Lois

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Re: Monday 12/18 TOPIC: Expectations

Post by lbogie » Mon Dec 18, 2017 2:23 pm

Bump
“It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.”

― Suzanne Collins, Mockingjay

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