Monday Dec. 11, 2017, 8 p.m. EST Meeting

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Monday Dec. 11, 2017, 8 p.m. EST Meeting

Post by HollyTx » Mon Dec 11, 2017 11:17 am

Meeting Topic Post: Just for Today
Date and time of meeting: December 11, 2017, 8 p.m. EST
Topic: Just for Today
Discussion leader: Holly
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When I first stumbled and fell into the forum and Nar-Anon, life was all about my addict. Was my ALO using? Was my ALO high? How could I stop this? What roadblocks could I put in the way to stop him from accessing his DOC? I would organize the family, my interactions and my life around what my ALO was or was not doing. His use - or lack thereof - was a barometer for my happiness. The focus was on my ALO - 100%. As I worked through my program, I needed to shift gears. I realized that I was as ill as my beloved addict. I was so bent on controlling the addiction (and therefore him), that I wasn't living MY life.

At some stage in my recovery I stumbled across the poem: Just for Today in our literature. And oh my goodness! There's not a word in there about the addict and controlling him. It's all about me and my recovery. When I first read it, I was angry. The poem seemed so overwhelming, so selfish - didn't the world see I needed to save my ALO? How was I going to do that, if I take time for me? So I took a step back. I took it line by line and decided that I was worth a little investment in me. Like my program, I don't manage my poem perfectly. Yet it reminds me of what can be as I take little baby steps.

I'm still in recovery - it's a lifelong journey. And sometimes I take the scenic route, jump on the crazy train, or miss the path entirely. It's OK. I'm human. Just for Today, I'm doing the best I can - and that's enough.


Just For Today
Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

Just for today I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Just for today I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my “luck” as it comes, and fit myself to it.

Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will study. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anyone knows of it, it will not count. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do – just for exercise. I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit. I won’t find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.

Just for today I will have a program. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective of my life.

Just for today I will I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to notice what is beautiful and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.



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