Sad, but not surprised

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Sad, but not surprised

Post by hopefulNE » Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:02 am

(R)AD is (R most probably standing for relapsed at this point) is out and about tonight.
I am sad and disappointed, but not surprised.
I have hope, but no expectations.
I am tired. I am discouraged, but not defeated.
I am watching my beloved grandson peacefully sleep, and choosing to feel blessed. As indeed I am.
Praying for the strength to do whatever needs to be done next, to continue to put one foot in front of the other. To breathe in, breathe out. To let go, and let God.
TY for always being here to listen.
"Keep Calm and Carry On" - British Ministry of Information, WWII

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Post by endoftheroad » Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:16 am

Oh loving hugs to you sister. Dear Pat, I know what it is to have great hope for our addicted loved ones, especially with their children.
Remember, it is the insanity of the drug, that need for them to shut out the world. Hard for us to comprehend.
Bask in the love and the safety you create for the baby. Nothing more pure and needing. He needs YOU.
I feel that love for my grand everyday and no longer feel that my addicted son could provide what she needs. Maybe someday.
Love your moments in time. All we have is today.
Blessings and stay close. ox Susan
This is the easier softer way.....

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Post by Suejan » Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:27 am

Im so sorry Pat, no shares just “hugs”.

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by linda.f » Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:18 am

We hear you and understand the pain and heartache.
Sounds like you have been working on expectations
with your tool box and that is a good thing.

It is never easy to deal with and the only thing
that made it a bit more bearable for me was to know
I have my program and support peeps there for me.
Never alone again.

Hang in there we are here for you.


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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by flash » Sun Dec 10, 2017 10:24 pm

Always here to listen Pat.
It is so tough to accept it when they are not ready as we wish they were.
I am so grateful that we all have each other here that understand exactly how we are feeling.
The little ones are blessings and they don't even know it.
Enjoy that grand baby and remember One day at a time.
love, Donna

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by Jade11 » Mon Dec 11, 2017 3:05 pm

Dear Pat, thank you for sharing your strength.
You are surely a blessing to your grandson as he is to you.
One Day at a Time. Hugs and love to you. xx

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by janiemarie » Mon Dec 18, 2017 10:18 am

I am tired. I am discouraged, but not defeated.
I know the saddness

Thank God for this program that teaches me acceptance of what I cannot change.
This frees me up to turn my focus onto things that bring me joy!
Like grandkids!!

Enjoy your beautiful grandson!
Peace and Hugs to you!
“And this too, shall pass away.” How much it expresses! How chastening in the hour of pride! How consoling in the depths of affliction!”
--- Abraham Lincoln

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by DeanW » Mon Dec 18, 2017 11:01 am

Tired, discouraged but not defeated! Our mantra. And, the sadness - but no surprises. I guess it comes with experience. I'm so grateful for my grandsons - their joy, their hopefulness, their resilience. Hugs.

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by Dannie » Mon Dec 18, 2017 6:37 pm

I am so sorry you're experiencing this. I do understand as we all do in some fashion. I am glad you are not letting it defeat you. Best wishes to you.

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by whatnow65 » Wed Dec 20, 2017 5:18 pm

I am sorry, I was there a couple weeks ago. Stay strong.

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Re: Sad, but not surprised

Post by Blue Indigo » Fri Dec 22, 2017 11:45 pm

I’m there right now, alongside you, scared for my AD, probably relapsed— scared for her 11 yr old son, scared for my partner and for me. Your post gives me hope however, along with the awareness that we are not alone. I’m holding your hand from a thousand miles or more away, sister.

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