Relapse is my enemy

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Relapse is my enemy

Post by asde » Sun Dec 03, 2017 9:54 am

Well, he made it to 30 days sober, about a week ago. Last night, I decided to give myself the opportunity to spend some quality time with my friends. during that time I get a very casual "i relapsed btw" text. He later revealed to me that he relapsed on day 31, but decided he wasn't telling anyone. A full week of him carrying on conversations with him as though he was 30+ days sober, when he was actually back to square one. I don't know if I'm angry, or if I even have a right to be. I'm just frustrated with addiction and the cycle it has him in. I know I have to do what's best for me, but I don't even know what that is anymore.

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Re: Relapse is my enemy

Post by DianeB » Sun Dec 03, 2017 11:13 am

Relapse of a loved one is only your enemy if you allow it to be.

My son relapsed over and over. Not my fault. I couldn't fix it,
I couldn't change it or him, and there is no cure for addiction.

However, I have the right to live a life away from chaos, drama,
toxic relationships. I have the right to choose my own path and
not allow another person's actions to put roadblocks in my way.

Find a are worth it.

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Re: Relapse is my enemy

Post by Hopeful14 » Sun Dec 03, 2017 6:26 pm

I am in the same boat as you. He made it 40 days and i was hopeful this time. Got the text this morning and was angry and sad. I don’t know what to do anymore either.

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Re: Relapse is my enemy

Post by jeanette » Sun Dec 03, 2017 8:31 pm


I make a them frequently

When my husband came to me and admitted a "slip" while he was in drug court
I don't know if his reaction was what he thought it would be

I don't remember my reaction, but I remember him telling me about it
and I remember thinking "I don't want to know about this"
I had my sponsor, who I could be honest and share all of my slips with

But I couldn't talk about this openly with my husband
he couldn't help me to heal
to become the best person I am
to be true to me

That is my program, my sponsor, my family of choice.
My relapse is my only enemy
Thoughts and Prayers, Peace and Love

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them FEEL. - Maya Angelou

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