Meeting Topic Sunday 12/3: Hope vs. Despair

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Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Meeting Topic Sunday 12/3: Hope vs. Despair

Post by vscook » Sat Dec 02, 2017 2:36 pm

Date and time of meeting: Sunday, December 3 at 8 p.m. Eastern

Topic: Hope vs. Despair

Discussion leader: Vicki

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My AD has recently started to slip in her behaviors, and I must be careful that I don’t slip with her. The SESH reading for December 3rd helps me focus on hope rather than despair:
I experienced a painful feeling of despair when I realized I could not control the addict or change the events caused by the addict’s behavior. I found that my life had become unmanageable because I was allowing the addict to have full control of my life.

I thought the addict had the problem and was the problem. If the addict would stop using, everything would be normal. Since my life revolved around the addict and the addict’s behavior, my involvement in the addict’s life kept me on a downward spiral of despair.

When I came to Nar-anon, I heard other members talking about similar situations. However, they had a hopeful attitude about their lives. They lived with the addict, yes, but were not focused on the addict’s life. Over time, the personal despair I felt seemed to lift, and I saw a way to change my life for the better. By using the Twelve Steps of the Nar-anon program, I am finding a way to remove myself from the feelings of despair. I can now replace those feelings with serenity and peace.

Thought for today: Despair and pain can be motivators, and I can release myself from them by working the Nar-anon program to change myself.

“Pain nourishes courage. You can’t be brave if you’ve only had wonderful things happen to you.” – Mary Tyler Moore
How do you focus on hope when the pain of your ALO’s behavior could cause despair? Join us on Sunday, December 3 at 8 p.m. Eastern to discuss this topic and anything else that may be on your heart.

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