Meeting Topic Sunday Nov 26, 8pm

With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.

Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.

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Meeting Topic Sunday Nov 26, 8pm

Post by MATT'S MOM » Sat Nov 25, 2017 7:57 am

Sunday 11-26 Holiday Letters/Self Pity
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Date and time of meeting: Sun 11-26 8 pm Eastern
Topic: Holiday Greetings
Discussion leader: MATT’S MOM

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So, by now if you celebrate the holidays, you maybe soon receiving Cards and at least one of the “Holiday Letters” or maybe even a “Family Photo Holiday Card”. (or for the more tech savvy of you, Emails or Facebook postings or some other social media). You know the ones that I mean—the letters or postings which tells you all about the happenings of your friends or relatives lives. You know, the ones where they’ve had the greatest year of their lives… Kids all on honor roll or dean’s list. They have all gotten promotions at work, son/daughter getting married/engaged, the baby is walking, talking, etc. Then there are the family holiday cards…. All the family members (even the dog and cat) are wearing matching clothing and saying Happy Holidays to you with huge smiles.

Now, I am not opposed to those letters/cards/emails/Facebook postings/other social media—I sent them out myself for several years. But, it kind of changes when you realize that your son/daughter/spouse are addicts. ---Not exactly something you want to put in the family newsletter huh? And you know, when they are really strung out, it shows in the pictures. It can also be tough to take a picture to send or post if you don’t know where they are.

So here we are looking with longing at the cards/letters/pictures/etc.…. Why can’t that be my family? Why is my situation so different? What is wrong with me????
There it is – Self Pity!!!!

There is a quote from Helen Keller on page 150 of the SESH Book: “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything good in the world.”

How are you handling the self-pity that can come with looking at the letters/photos/postings and the holidays in general? Are you working on changing that attitude? Have you learned things about yourself while dealing with all the chaos surrounding your ALO? Are you yielding to the self-pity?

Join me on Sunday @8pm to talk about this or whatever is on your heart.

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Re: Meeting Topic Sunday Nov 26, 8pm

Post by MATT'S MOM » Sun Nov 26, 2017 5:29 am

Bump

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Re: Meeting Topic Sunday Nov 26, 8pm

Post by MATT'S MOM » Sun Nov 26, 2017 5:28 pm

Bump. See you tonight

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Re: Meeting Topic Sunday Nov 26, 8pm

Post by endoftheroad » Sun Nov 26, 2017 6:50 pm

Bump
This is the easier softer way.....

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