How To Have Them Removed From Your Home

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How To Have Them Removed From Your Home

Post by Matee » Sat Nov 11, 2017 10:28 pm

My AS is addicted to Amphetamines and lives with me. He pulses his main addiction with a morphine based tea, pot, and anti anxiety scripts. He recently finished a 28 day rehab stay and relapsed 2 weeks out. His DOC has made him paranoid and delusional in the past. In the last 6 months I’ve had police and ambulances here multiple times. His drug induced anger has him direct constant emotional and verbal abuse toward me. He will not leave my home or go to sober living. The police say since he’s not physically assaulted me (yet) they cannot force him to leave. In essence, he’s holding me hostage in my own home. He provides no monetary support at this time; what monies he has goes to ordering drugs online delivered to a PO box. He’s stolen my PRN Ativan in the past as well. During psychosis, he’ll take my car keys and only return them when police are called. How do I get him out of the house for good?
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Re: How To Have Them Removed From Your Home

Post by jeanette » Sun Nov 12, 2017 8:12 am

Matee

I am sorry you are going through this. Laws differ in every city, town, county and state - so although people may share here about their experiences with this situation - know that what you need to do is individual.

At one point I had to research how to evict someone from my home. It was unpleasant and uncomfortable.

Your safety is very important, please consult the resources in your area!
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Post by MarieW » Sun Nov 12, 2017 12:54 pm

Welcome to the Forum. I was so afraid of getting stuck with my son when I let him move back in to recuperate from a broken leg that I had him sign a renter agreement, just in case I had to evict him!

You might see if there is a Legal Aid Society or something similar in your area that can give you legal help for free. The process might get ugly, but in the long run you'll gain a peaceful home, so it might be worth it.

Please also look for a Nar-Anon or Al-Anon meeting in your area. You will find people there who are also learning to live with addiction in their families. They will offer you much needed wisdom, support and hope.

Keep coming back.
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Post by DeanW » Sun Nov 12, 2017 2:28 pm

My ESH - different states have different laws regarding this. Generally speaking - it would be similar to a month to month tenant who did not pay and you had to evict. There is a process for doing this and it requires certain notifications during specified periods of time. God bless.

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Post by roadrunner » Sun Nov 12, 2017 5:05 pm

I evicted my ABF - who wasn't living with me, but his stuff was still here. I wanted his stuff out - he wasn't paying rent on leaving it here. I went to a Woman's Group who helped me write the eviction notice for nothing - they were very supportive and knowledgeable.

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Re: How To Have Them Removed From Your Home

Post by Matee » Mon Nov 13, 2017 11:53 pm

Thanks so much for all of your responses. Nothing about dealing with addiction is easy. Eviction is an option yet takes a fair amount of time to implement and enact. When you need them out yesterday, one more minute under the same roof is a thing of nightmares. That the sober person has no legal right or options to have the active addict removed is an impossible way of living.
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Post by Suejan » Tue Nov 14, 2017 12:53 am

My son did not pay rent- using any cash for drugs. He did all the abusive and illegal things that drug addicts do. My biggest issue was getting to the headspace where I could lock him out.
When he tried to get back in again, we called the RCMP and teported he he was doing a break and enter in our house. They took him to the station, talked to him, asked if we wanted to press charges. We said no- they brought him back a few days later to escort him to get his stuff. With the exception of one officer one time, who seemed to think we were just “mean” parents, we were well supported by the RCMP.
If your son causes damage ( broken windows, holes in wall) hurts you physically or steals from you, it has been my experience where I live that the police protected us. Even when we chose not to press charges. But we were very honest and open about it, and how we needed to be safe from our son yet hoped he would find his way when we stopped sheltering him. By the way- my son was 21-23 while this all happened.
I hope you can do what you need to to get safe.
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Re: How To Have Them Removed From Your Home

Post by Matee » Tue Nov 14, 2017 10:44 am

Thank you Suejan. You’ve given me some very good examples to consider. I’ll research how each scenario would play out legally in my country’s state.
PEACE. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.

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