Three years - What I've learned!

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Three years - What I've learned!

Post by flash » Thu Nov 02, 2017 6:52 am

Responding to another post I realized my three year anniversary on the forum is coming up.
Prior to that in Sept, 3 years ago I walked through the doors of my first f2f meeting.
I have one thing to say.
Thank you Higher Power.
Although I didn't even know it at the time that is the only way to explain how I got there and now here.
I walked in sick (yes, sicker than my son). I crawled onto this forum a lost person.
What I have learned and how I have changed over these three years is too expansive to write about.
I actually believe I walked into nar-anon one person and another emerged.
I worked my butt off to find that other person.
If I can do it - anyone can. I was one of the one's that didn't even believe that I had a HP. Didn't believe that my son did.
Didn't believe that I could be the change that ricocheted to so many others around me.
There probably isn't one thing about myself that is the same as it was three years ago.
Sometimes when I think about that it is a little scary.
Then I remind myself that a better version of myself emerged from working on my recovery.
Music became my friend over these years as different songs would randomly pop into my mind (Another God wink because I was not at all musically inclined)
(not to mention the amazing friends and loved ones I have made on this journey - my sponsor saved my life).
So I'll sum it up with one song that out of nowhere came into my head a couple years ago and never left.
Some of you may recognize it from the play GODSPELL -
"Oh dear Lord - three things I pray: To see thee more clearly, to love thee more dearly, to follow thee more nearly, DAY BY DAY!"
Pretty much has been my program.
Day by Day.
Love you all for being here

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by simplemom » Thu Nov 02, 2017 7:44 am

Beautufully stated, Donna!

This too is my anniversary month.

Slogans and acronyms were stepping stones for my growth....helped me to see more clearly.

At meetings, I learned to be mindful of God first, I found them in music. This helped me to define my HP. The wonderful people in the rooms helped me to Let Go and Let love and find my faith in a power greater than myself.

As has been stated many times, this is a simple program for complicated people. Thank you for sharing your journey. Despite the pain addiction has brought into our lives, it thrills my soul to walk this journey with you. It works when you work it.

Big HUGS to you, my friend!
Karen (simplemom)
"I am not afraid of storms, I am learning to sail my own ship."
Louise May Alcott

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by jeanette » Thu Nov 02, 2017 9:17 am

Thanks you so much for sharing!!! This is truly beautiful!
Thoughts and Prayers, Peace and Love

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them FEEL. - Maya Angelou

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Post by vscook » Thu Nov 02, 2017 9:19 am

Congrats on your anniversary month Donna & Karen! Seeing how the program has helped you "old-timers" is an inspiration for us newbies. Keep coming back!
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Post by SDIN2T » Thu Nov 02, 2017 11:30 am

What a wonderful share. Happy anniversary.

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by Dannie » Thu Nov 02, 2017 3:52 pm

You are such an inspiration all the time. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by Ronni » Fri Nov 03, 2017 8:01 am

Hey Donna, great share!

I'm just about to celebrate my three year aniversary too....we've walked this path together, you and I! There have been so many times you've given me a leg-up, a wise word, encouragement when I've needed it, and turned something around for me that I was struggling with.

You're a good friend, a wise mentor, and an excellent example of how our program works if you work it. You ROCK! <3
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Post by KylesMomForever » Fri Nov 03, 2017 12:45 pm

My seventeen has been using drugs for three years.
He has been arrested twice before and is out on bail awaiting trial
I was informed by the police that he violated his bail conditions by being with his coaccused.
He left the house and has not turned himself in
Before he left he said he will do drugs until he dies.
He refuses to enter private drug rehab program
I don't even recognize him anymore
He has stolen almost everything of value from our home.
Punched holes in the wall
Swears at me and calls me stupid and sick in the head.
My heart is broken, I am depressed and close to a nervous breakdown

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by roadrunner » Fri Nov 03, 2017 2:46 pm

Oh Donna - So good to hear its been 3 years - I'm right behind you in Jan. or Feb. I still remember your post asking if anyone needed a hand to meet them at the door of the convention - It really helped me to go to that convention - I was so scared and you were the support I needed. It showed me what a wonderful program this is. I was so brand new and you were only a few months later than me. Thank you so much and congratulations on 3 years. Paula

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by MATT'S MOM » Fri Nov 03, 2017 6:12 pm


Congrats on 3 years... Time sure flies! Thank you for sharing the journey with us.

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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by Marianne » Fri Nov 03, 2017 9:37 pm

Congrats on three years! :D
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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by endoftheroad » Sat Nov 04, 2017 2:13 am

Blessings Donna on your three years of wonderful working and learning. I celebrated 3 on September 24 and I clearly see you as a sister in the light as we have shared our paths so many times! So much love to you gal......Susan
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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by heretostay » Sat Nov 04, 2017 9:22 am

Congratulations on your anniversary! Love your share.

It is a blessing to walk on this journey with you....

Listen to learn and share to heal.
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Re: Three years - What I've learned!

Post by lbogie » Mon Nov 13, 2017 1:48 am

Great share Donna! What great recovery you have. I am so Grateful to be on this journey with you and others.
Way to work the program. Hugs, Lois
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