Posting and Replying to Forum Topics - Guidelines

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Posting and Replying to Forum Topics - Guidelines

Post by Naranon_Admin » Fri Mar 03, 2017 12:57 pm


This forum is a bit of a hybrid. It is not a f2f meeting but we like to
adhere to the structure of a meeting. It is not social media, but we do
respond to others who share with our Experience, Strength and Hope.

In a f2f meeting when someone shares, we do not comment. We simply
respond with "Thank you for sharing". This allows each individual to share
without fear of judgment, unwanted advice and/or opinion, and criticism,
including personal praise. We don't put the spotlight on one person with
praise which leaves others out.

After the meeting, we can engage in one on one conversation and fellowship
and sharing our own personal E S & H.

On the Forum we follow the same guidelines except we have a little more flexibility
as we can post our share with the explicit purpose of hearing the E S & H of
others sharing. How they have been through, dealt with, or experienced the same
situation. What they did that worked for them and what didn't work.

We WANT to hear....

E = Experience
S = Strength
H = Hope

There is no O in this. O = Opinion!

As soon as I say "I think" I am offering my opinion and thus a form of advice.

Occasionally there have been shares that have ended up in a dialog or a
2 person conversation. Dialogs and conversations should be shared in a pm.

Sometimes the original thread is "hijacked". By that I mean -

Person A shares
Person B responds
Person C responds to Person B - not the original post.
And then it continues until Person A is lost.

Here are some general guidelines for your reflection in posting and sharing:

Post your topic and listen to the responses of E S & H. If you have
posted you only need to Listen. It is unnecessary and distracting to others
when you respond to each individual reply. Nor do you have to defend your
position in a running dialog. Learning is in the listening. Take what you need
and leave the rest.

When replying, reply to the original post, not to other individual replies.
Reply with your own personal E S & H, not your opinion.

In general, replying once to a post is all it takes. If someone later in
the thread says something in subsequent posts that you would like to
respond to then by all means contact that individual in a private message.
What a wonderful way to build fellowship with other members.

Keep in mind that someone put a share out there to hear E, S, & H on what they
shared, not a running dialog between others.

Keeping "conversations" and "dialogs" private keeps the Forum healthy.

This forum is not like other social media sites. We don't go back
and forth and respond to every reply. We also don't use one post
as a personal blog, going from one subject to the next or for
followups to the original subject.

Start a new topic. If you keep adding to the same post, responses
will be far and few between because it was already read and most
don't go back to see "what's new".

Thanks for helping to keep the Forum healthy.


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