Congratulations to your RH and to you as well for attending your first f2f meeting! My AH is on his 30th day sober, so I know how you are feeling. Although my AH is in treatment so I don't need to deal with his moodiness every single day, he has had 20 months of sobriety before so I know what you are going through. Finding this program at this time, when our AH's are new in recovery is good for us, I believe. My AH also started using at an early age. I didn't think about it before coming to this program, that his brain had stopped maturing when he started using. It makes so many things he has said & done become so much more clear once truly understanding the effects the drugs have had on him & his maturing into the man he is now. I can look at my 13 y/o and see so many similarities in the way they deal with things when they are stressed, angry, hurt, etc. Withdrawing, name calling, sulking, blame-shifting~it all makes sense now!!!
Taking time for yourself is a MUST! I am also an over-doer...everything needs to be done on MY time. Heaven forbid I leave the house from being dusted, dishes left to be washed in the sink or a dirty bathroom! I used to think these things were important
Now that I am forced to truly take care of my kids alone for a time, I am starting to slowly see that these things are not that important...they can wait...and they will wait because I only have 24 hours in a day and it is time to take some of those hours to take care of me. This program is a life saver. Progress not perfection....one day at a time.