With the understanding that addiction is a disease and the realization that we are powerless over it as well as over people's lives, we are ready to do something useful and constructive with our own.
Then, and only then can we be of any help to others.
So today my ALO called me twice and I called him back but that was a mistake-his response on picking up the phone was "why arent you answering your phone!!!" He was grouchy and having a problem with spam on his computer which he wanted me to fix. He had to put in one of those codes in order to prove he is a human so he could send his email because his account was hacked by a spam program a few weeks ago. But he cant read the code properly because his close up vision is going and he has not bothered to get reading glasses even though he has said he needs to. I refused to take the bait and told him to just ask anyone with good eyes to enter the code for him that he should be fine. He didnt want to ask anyone but I heard someone laughing in the background they said hello to him and he said hi back. I said just ask them to enter the code for you and you will be good. He hung up.
I put my phone on silent.
I was flustered after dealing with my ALO's attitude but then took a few deep breaths and told myself heck I did good. I didnt drop what I was doing and run down to where he was (just around the corner from me I'm sure, if he is at his usual place) to fix his problem for him. He knows what he needs to do and he can do it without my help. I wasn't breaking Lyra Week to go help him with his computer problem.
I am responsible for my own happiness! I did a good interview this morning and am about to go do another one. I have some beach chairs to move later so that if the wave/wind action builds up that they dont wash away. I am trying to finish downloading a tv show to watch tonight if I can't do my f2f meeting due to weather (likely at this point). Im getting things done and I am a good person. I helped my ALO but told him I was going to hang up if he was only negative, and I refused to do it FOR him. I can continue to be a good pleasant person for me and enjoy my life regardless of whether my ALO is grouchy about his computer.
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Agreed, you are a good person!
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"I am a good person".....NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT! ♥
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