I want to apologize to Diane B for unthinkingly putting her in the spotlight with my post on unconditional love. Her post on another thread helped me crystallize some thinking/questions I had about detaching with love, unconditional love, love and letting go, and dealing with the fact that while ones children are always ones children, if you stop interacting with a romantic partner for a sustained period of time, society generally states that you are no longer romantic partners.
As Diane and several others pointed out asking this question about the nature of the relationship only serves to take attention away from the individual affected by that other person's addiction (us, the co-addicts). That our recoveries are about US not about the kind of relationship we have with our ALOs.
Given that according to several people my post may also divide the group I have decided to delete it.
I am sorry, again, for putting people in the spotlight and Diane I hope you will keep sharing because I learn a lot from you-and I hope someday to be where you are. I am sorry if THIS message is again putting you in the spotlight, but given the public nature of the exchange, I figured I'd better apologize and explain why I'm deleting my post.
Hugs to everyone,