Im new and lost all my friends even my best friend of 25 yr

[gingerz]

thanks everyone. its only getting worse

[gingerz]

THANKS ALL, ITS DAY TO DAY FOR ME AND EVEN MINUTE TO MINUTE

[DRM]

Ginger,

I hope you can attend meetings either F2F or on-line here. Reading the material and shares here in the forum were helpful to me. After you find meetings, find a sponsor. I am working with a sponsor and it is helpful to have someone other than me look at my situations and bounce my thought process off of as I find the answers to my own questions about how to make a better life for me.

I have found that the only one that has control of my life is me. I cannot control those around me. For me, learning how to detach from people around me so their feelings and actions no longer dictated how I felt or lived is an ongoing process but I continue to take babysteps every day. Each day gets better as I know better.

(Hugs)
Dawna

[just.me.now]

I understand how you are feeling. I have an addicted son and an addicted husband also. The chaos that the two of them brought into my home brought me to my knees at times. All the lying, stealing, sneakiness--it was like living with strangers---Who are these people? This was not the husband I married or the son that I raised.

For years I was embarrassed to tell people about my husband and son's addictions and isolated myself from many people, including family and friends, until I finally reached my bottom and told them both to leave within the past couple of months. Neither one of them lives with me now, and it is a huge weight off of me, because now I feel like I can truly begin to take care of ME. That was the choice that I made. You have choices too.

My son is in recovery and living in a 3/4 house and is doing well (JFT-Just For Today). My husband is still using and continues to be in denial about his addiction. I am now leaving their recovery up to them and concentrating on MY RECOVERY. This forum helps a lot, as well as the online meetings. I also go to f2f meetings once a week.

I have made new friends through nar-anon meetings, and...I have a dog who is a great companion and source of comfort to me.

Even though my online name is just.me.now, I don't feel alone with my nar-anon family. Keep coming back.

[Nightingayle811]

Hi Ginger...
Just wanted to say Hi and Welcome! I'm not sure if you realize this yet, but the moment you logged onto this forum, you got yourself another Family.
One that is all about taking care of and supporting YOU. We can't fix your problems for you, but you can learn from those that have been there, what tools have worked for them and what things haven't and you decide which ones you think will work for you. But it's up to you to use them. Nobody else can do this for you, but we are all here for you to support and encourage you, celebrate your successes and pick you up when you fall. This is a life changing place, even if nothing else in your life changes, you have the power to change how you live yours in the midst of the chaos. Keep coming back. Read, share, learn from others. Get the literature and find a face to face meeting. Work the steps. Find a sponsor if you can. Most important, take care of yourself and keep coming back. ((HUGS))
Gayle

[Rachlovesdogs]

Previously when I left my boyfriend (now husband).... My doggie was my ntt! She still is! Find comfort in ur pup when ur life feels upside down... This is a great place to be... I have come back because I remember the comfort and understanding I received years ago... Other people get it they really do!