jail

[ducky]

My AS was arrested on friday night for violaton of probation...he is in jail right now...other charges have "cropped up" that he has admitted to...robberies....I am so sad....I don't feel like I can go see him yet...I brought clothes out to the jail for him today, the officer told me he can't have them, he is on a "suicide watch"....he has always threatened me that if he went to jail he would do something because he could not handle it....he goes back to court on friday with many chrges against him.....my heart is broken and I am so sad, but feel relieved that he is safe and alive.....

[Jellybean55]

Sorry you are having to go thru this. He is safe in jail and maybe that will bring you some peace. Mothers of addicts are a special breed. I think we must be really strong, and maybe we are chosen to be their Mothers because others couldn't love them like we do. Take Care and together we can repeat the Serenity Prayer.

[pabrown]

I'm sorry this is happening. I can't count the times I prayed for jail
for my son. It slowed him down if only for a few days and I was finally
able to sleep. I hope you can get some rest now. I know how much it
hurts but he is safe and has a roof over his head.

((Hugs))
Patsy

[Cheryl]

Dear Ducky,

HUGS.

Cheryl

[smuckers66]

So sorry. My thoughts are with you and your Son

[judymom]

My daughter is on probation for 3 years, of which about a year and 3 months have passed. So far, she's been doing what she needs to, albeit reluctantly, but I'm always waiting for the "other shoe to drop". If she violates her probation in any way, not only does she have to do prison time, she will have to go back to the state where the original probation was issued before it got transferred to our state. That is 600 miles away. My husband already told me if that happens he will not be going to see her. So, I understand what you must be going through. I live in fear of the same thing happening here. Serenity prayer, serenity prayer, serenity prayer...

I will keep you in my prayers as well.

Judy

[ducky]

thank you all for your support and encouragment.....I hope I can find the strength to go see him soon....I am just afraid I will fall apart....everyone tells me this is the best thing for him....in my heart I know it is....I just hope it works....

[Gerilyn]

Dear Ducky,
I have been there. When my daughter was arrested in November it was in a state 400 miles away. I was able to sleep finally and knew in my heart it was the best place for her to be. Well, truth be told, I fell apart at first and THEN realized it was the best place for her. She had a 3 week relapse and wrecked havoc so was arrested (stealing pocketbooks and money and using the credit cards to support her drug addiction). She stayed there for 1 month and was put on probation and sent to our state. She relapsed again in May and did the same tricks. Now she was arrested here. Big time arrested. Very serious charges. We are waiting to hear what the original state will do. We are waiting to hear what this state will do. 2 attorneys in 2 different states. Mind boggling. BUT, she is in an o/p treatment program 5 days a week, an hour a day. She sees a therapist, and goes to a weekly AA meeting. It's something in a positive direction. And trying to eat healthier as well. Better habits I should say. She has no car so really can't go out much which also makes it easier on us.

I have learned one very important thing in this program. That what we do is right for us at the time. If you don't choose to go visit your son that is your choice. No judgements. Maybe you are just not ready yet. If you want to go every day, then, again, your choice. You take your time and decide what it is you want to do. This is very hard on us. I really do understand. Maybe, just maybe, this is what your son needs for a wake up call. We never know what will be the addicts rock bottom. Spending time in jail could be what turns your son around. I will keep you both in my prayers.
(((hugs)))
Gerilyn

[shaktipat]

May the support of your nar-anon family, readings and hopefully f2f and a sponsor bring you to a place of self care. I can relate so strongly to your pain and experience with your AS. Taking one day at a time is all I can offer. ((((HUGS))))

[linda.f]

I understand.

I have been where you are at, many times.

I have found gratitute with my son's jail stints.

He is alive. He has opportunities to change himself.

He has another chance to change his situation.

In the meantime. I keep working on me. Loving

him from afar. Living the only life I have, to the

best of my ability.

xo