The rules of him moving in was no lying, cheating or using.
His bf keeps telling me we need to get him back here so we can keep an eye on him.
The obsession of the family becomes apparnet when we try to control the addict's using. We become detectives and search the premises and his personal belongings for drugs and drug-related items. We become obsessed with where the addict is, what he is doing, and how we can control his using. We want to believe that the problem has solved itself even when our gut feeling tells us that this is not so. We pretend and begin to belive the addict's promises, but we are uneasy because common sense tells us there is something wrong. We become victims of denial.
The Nar-Anon Family Group is primarliy for you who know or have known a feeling of desperation concerning the addiction problem of someone very near to you. We ave found the answere with serenity and peace of mind. ( from Newcomer's Welcome Nar-Anon Blue booklet, p3)